Saturday, November 24, 2007

Spouses...Together, Sharing, or Sparring, They're Darling

This week's theme...Thankfulness and Giving...

Today, I want to write about spouses. Yes, divorce rates are sky-high and some couples decide to refuse to "tie-the-knot" all together. However, if you look closely at your spouse and then at yourself and remember why you came together in the first place, it's pretty darn special.

Alfred Adler said,
"We only regard those unions as real examples of love and real marriages in which a fixed and unalterable decision has been taken. If men or women contemplate an escape, they do not collect all their powers for the task. In none of the serious and important tasks of life do we arrange such a "getaway." We cannot love and be limited."

My husband and I are unusual in that we rarely argue. Maybe we are a couple who talk together so often that there isn't much left to argue about.

Additionally, we agreed before marriage, that we each had our little quirks and annoyances and that those petty little things could not possibly get in the way of our relationship. That still holds true today, after two children, ages 10 and 7 with special needs (the children have high functioning Asperger's Syndrome and Anxiety disorders), who we enjoy parenting together.

My husband is my best friend. If I am excited about something new, even minute, he will listen and get excited with me. He watches my shows with me and I watch his with him. We enjoy each other's company and enjoy family time with the children and parenting them together.

The Bible States,
"Love is patient, love is kind.
It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
It is not rude, it is not self-seeking.
It is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth.
It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails.
-I Corinthians 13:4-8

Are we the perfect couple? No. No one has the perfect relationship. I do know, however, that I am grateful for him and that we chose to be together. I also know that if we continue to court that relationship that it will last forever. If we stop talking, stop interacting, start dividing our interests and ignoring each other's needs, our relationship will go the way of the staggering trends.

Marriage and divorce statistics are at the links here...

As great contrast, here are some articles that express great appreciation for spouses. I really appreciate these writers to take the time and energy to write about something positive regarding their spouse in this time of divorce and betrayal being broadcast by the media. (origin of the above link) (origin of the above link)

Spouses are a wonderful thing. I am so grateful for mine.

Have a fantastic evening and weekend!

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